Divorce: Don’t ask Why? (February 17 2010)         - Shelley Stile

In life, I have come to accept the fact that there are questions of mine that will never be answered to my satisfaction if at all. I have come to accept the fact that some things in life are beyond my comprehension and I must trust or have faith that certain occurrences are indeed outside the realm of human reason. I have also come to see how these acts of acceptance with their attendant faith about life are concepts that apply to learning how to let go and move on after your divorce.

Was Your Divorce a Means to Healing Old Baggage? (February 03 2010)         - Shelley Stile

Here's a fascinating take on divorce that I find more true than not: We choose our spouses, usually subconsciously, as a means to healing old emotional wounds we have been carrying around our entire life. Our divorce then becomes the wakeup call to clean up that mental baggage we have been lugging around once and for all which in turn allows us to become the person we were always meant to be!

Life After Divorce: Living with Change and Uncertainty (July 29 2009)         - Shelley Stile

Fear of our future after divorce keeps us stuck in the pain of the past. This fear prompts our mind chatter to paint a bleak picture of an uncertain future, which in turn creates a disempowering and negative attitude towards life. A negative attitude on life becomes all pervasive and leaves us powerless and depressed. If we stop and think about it, the future is totally unpredictable and unknowable. We simply cannot know what the future holds. Thus it is our perspective about the future that will lay the foundation for what is coming around the bend

Dodge a Dogfight (July 19 2009)         - Sandra Prior

Now that you're splitting up there's the tricky custody issue of the adorable dog/cat/mohair rabbit you got when you moved in together.

Taking Stock after Divorce (July 11 2009)         - Sandra Prior

It took hours of therapy, and more hours drinking vodka cranberries with friends, to figure out why I was in this sexually rewarding yet emotionally draining downward cycle. And the answer is that I was addicted to charismatic, unstable and emotionally unpredictable women.

You're Not The Man You Were (July 10 2009)         - Sandra Prior

For the modern man getting back into dating after a divorce, I'd heartily recommend teaming up with your sister, a platonic female friend or a pal's wife. Women can provide you with a look behind the curtain and will give you excellent scouting reports, most of which you will ignore at your own peril.

Back in the Dating Game (July 10 2009)         - Sandra Prior

My marriage ended with a whimper, not a bang. In 2002, after nine years together, my wife and I split up in a parking lot. Not that I didn't see it coming. There had been couples counseling, crying fits and final chances.

Divorce: Freedom is the Reward for Letting Go (June 13 2009)         - Shelley Stile

The ability to move on after your divorce entails the letting go of the past with its emotional baggage and negative emotions. If you can accomplish this feat then the heavy burdens you have been carrying will lift and you will experience the liberation of freedom: the ability to move unimpeded towards whatever goal you establish for yourself.

Divorce: Acceptance of your New Reality (April 27 2009)         - Shelley Stile

What do you think of people who are detached from reality? People that are seemingly living in a world of their own making? It’s unnerving to say the least as well as truly sad. Yet for those of us attempting to recover from a divorce, our inability to fully accept our new reality is not too far removed from living in a fantasy world.

The Great Pretenders (January 18 2009)         - Sandra Prior

If there was an Oscar for the Greatest Marriage Ruse, Madonna and Guy Ritchie would deserve to win it. There was a collective sigh of relief when the couple announced in October last year they were splitting up because they couldn't 'bear to live with the pretense any longer'. They weren't the only ones: we were sick of the pretense too.

Divorce (July 23 2007)         - claim this article

The most recent statistics show that about 50% of all marriages end in divorce. It is not very encouraging to enter into any kind of relationship knowing that it only has a 50/50 chance of being successful. Failure at anything is never pleasant, but there is one good thing about divorce. You are now free to try again and hopefully this time you will not make the same mistake.

Does Living In A Loveless Marriage Necessarily Mean That You Should Get A Divorce? (July 23 2007)         - claim this article

Being in a loveless marriage is a frustrating predicament, but it may not necessarily mean that a divorce is eminent. Solving the quandary of a loveless marriage requires self-reflection to assess the situation, courage to try to create a team effort for the best decision with your spouse, and gumption to face the reality that a divorce may be the best solution for the loveless marriage.

Things To Consider When Making A Decision About Divorce (July 23 2007)         - claim this article

When making a divorce decision, there are quite a few things that you should consider. Too often people find themselves unable to clearly identify what they need to think about when making a divorce decision which leads to further indecision and frustration. When making serious divorce decisions, having an open mind and listing the things that will figure into your decision about divorce, will help make the process a little simpler for you.

Hire Divorce Lawyer or Use Online Divorce Forms (July 23 2007)         - claim this article

When do you need to hire a family law attorney and when is it okay to just use an online divorce form website to save a little money? This article will provide a few pointers to help you decide whether to do it yourself or retain a divorce lawyer.

Does Your Sexless Marriage Have You Thinking About Divorce? (July 23 2007)         - claim this article

If you are in a sexless marriage and are unhappy because of it, don't worry, it isn't unrecoverable but it is serious cause for concern. You may even be thinking that you need a divorce because of your sexless marriage, that's only natural. But, in order to really decide what to do, some thinking needs to be done so you feel good about your decision, regardless if you stay married or not.

Is Your Marriage Problem Severe Enough To Warrant Getting A Divorce? (July 23 2007)         - claim this article

Having a marriage problem can be agonizing especially if you're trying to do all you can to make your marriage work. Depending on how your marriage was prior to thinking that you had a marriage problem, you could be in for a hurtful time if you don't take a step back and look at your marriage problem from a "helicopter" viewpoint. To do that, you're going to need to try to limit your emotional stake in the situation which admittedly is a difficult thing to do.

How Women Should Protect Themselves Financially Regarding Divorce (July 23 2007)         - claim this article

Women who believe a divorce is a possibility or who think that their husband will be asking about getting a divorce at some point should put their emotions aside and plan "just in case" their intuition is correct that a divorce may be coming in the near future. If women who believe that the "divorce discussion" may be lurking, they should make it a point to look for solid signs that their husband will indeed ask for a divorce...then they should plan accordingly.

Reasons You Arent Starting the Decision Making Process About Whether To Get a Divorce Or... (July 23 2007)         - claim this article

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Along with any tough decision comes reluctance, especially when that decision involves an actual process and might potentially involve emotional pain or anguish. Deciding whether or not to get a divorce or stay married can be a frightening time for most people, even if they know deep inside themselves that they have to actually make a decision, one way or another.

Dating Tips for Divorced and Widowed Moms (July 23 2007)         - claim this article

Dating is tough for just about everybody, but it's even tougher for people who are divorced and widowed. Along with the fears of being "out of practice," there are often children's feelings to consider.

Contested And Uncontested Divorce (July 23 2007)         - claim this article

A divorce case is contested if the parties cannot agree on every one of the issues involved in their particular situation. Common areas of disagreement include, but are not limited to: grounds for divorce, custody of the children, visitation rights, division of the assets of the marriage, child support, maintenance (alimony), payment of family debts, contribution toward educational expenses (college or parochial), payment of health insurance for the dependent spouse, income tax structuring, etc